Fate or Future?

“It is inevitable.”, “We are meant to be together.”, “It is our destiny!!”. Three lines that all show relation to one thing. . . and it’s already there. Destiny. Is it possible that our lives are all predetermined by one or more heavenly beings? That we are living only according to their wishes? Could it be true that we are but puppets living by the strings that control our lives? It depends on what you believe in, since i believe that our lives are what we choose to make it.

My cousin, whom i’d prefer not to mention by name, was probably one of the most promising of us all. In grade school he was an honor student, 1st honor almost every year and had skills in playing basketball. But unfortunately int started to go down hill for him when high school rolled in. His grades started going down. From 1st honor, to 3rd, to none, to “not even close”. His basketball skills went to waste since he didn’t really want to play anymore. “I just done feel like it anymore” where his words. And these words also came out later on in college when he decided he didn’t want to study anymore. Right now he’s living with his parents, spends his free time doing anything he wants and is working as a “baggage boy” for their company, getting payed to carry/transport products. No offense to people with jobs like this, but it’s just such a waste to live like this when he could have had it better.

Another addition to my influence to this belief was my friend whom i will also not be naming. He isn’t my batchmate, in fact he’s 2 years ahead of me. He came from Xavier also. Much like my unnamed cousin he was a good student, not as good but still. 2nd honors consistently, CAT officer (citizen army training i think is the full name), and a rather good badminton player. We were good friends and we knew a lot about each other, which is why we could trust each other. One day we were talking and a topic of working came up. Apparently he got a job offer from a well known us-based company. Well more like an opportunity than a job. Plus it was only part-time so he could still keep up with his studies while making money at the same time. But there was a supposed catch. The opportunity is actually a training package which comes with certain products of the company. He will be trained to be one of the business executives and then start being payed after the training. But the whole package costs 13 thousand up front. SCAM!!! Well, at least thats what a lot of people said on the internet, but never believe that alone. His parent’s were against it also. They were saying how he didn’t need that since he has a promising future in the Ateneo (he was already accepted) and that to simply go into business would be a waste. Irregardless of what i said (i didn’t take any side) he decided to go for it. And now, he’s in his 3rd year in Ateneo, still going strong with the badminton team, and earning over 50 thousand a month. Darn don’t you just wish that that’s you?

Mainly my belief in this comes from my own experience. Ever since i was smart enough to think on my own i’ve been able to remember my dreams quite clearly (not all of course). And what i find strange is that whenever i have a dream, they are all possible events in my life. What i mean is that i don’t dream of the supernatural, the science fiction and others of the like. My dreams are all real events and what is even more creepy is that they tend to come true. I’ve had more that enough cases of dejavu already to tell me that it’s real. I’ve had dreams where I listen to a conversation then a few days later am hearing the same thing again. I’ve even had a dream where was taking a test in school. Yes i ended up getting perfect in the real thing. And my favorite, when i dreamed that there would be a storm and classes where suspended. So why do these seem to go against my belief in destiny? Aren’t these supporting the possibility of destiny? Yes they seem to, but the story isn’t finish yet. Going back to the dream of the storm, in the dream I still went in for class. I woke up (in my dream) and got dressed. Ate breakfast and waited about 15 mins for my ride since i go to school with my cousin. I spent nearly half the day there. Then when lunch came along it was announced that classes are suspended. Great news and great noises coming from all over the school. All seemed great except for me. This was because i couldn’t leave the school. Unfortunately, i had no ride home until later in the early evening. Classes ended at 10 am, i went home 5:30pm (i had a cellphone so i knew the time). This is where i realized that i was dreaming. How? Cause i woke up. hehehe anyway, after waking up it was drizzling outside. i remembered the dream and realized that i don’t want to spend so many hours just waiting for a ride home. So i played bad boy and told my maid i wasn’t going in that day, i forgot what reason i gave. she told my cousin when they got there. Then later at 930 i got a call from my classmate saying that classes really got suspended. i was gonna say i know but then he might go crazy on me for not telling him. And so, instead of spending nearly 8 hours of doing nothing, i took my time and relaxed at home. sweet.

Predetermined Future? I guess we can say that. Our future is all set up. We can even say that our lives are actually according to the will of some all-powerful God. I’m a catholic. I believe in God. But i also believe that if God created us in his image and likeness, he also gave us that one thing that can make or break our connection with him. Freedom. We have the freedom to make choices and the freedom to choose how our life is going to end up as. Some people may start life better or worse, but it doesn’t mean that one is bound to that life alone. I believe in destiny, that destiny is a string of predetermined events that show our life, that destiny is constantly changing, changing to fit the choices we make.